Are you better off being someones first wife and daughter in law?

My friend dated a guy for 2 years she loves so much he makes her happy he was married before but at at 20 years old in a civil court house he lived with his uncle,aunt and 3 of his cousins when he was married he haves a young brother and sister...His first marriage lasted for a year and 4 months,He married his first wife to get his papers to work to help his dad out he was going to school now...He proposed to my friend and said yes but thinking about giving the ring back cause she wants to be some ones first wife and first daughter in law not second wife or second daughter in law because she don't picture herself being someones second wife or daughter in law she thinks it would be better off being someones first wife and daughter in law being someones second wife and daughter in law is not her I mean would are you be better off being someones first wife and daughter in law too?